What do we do when someone that hurt us wont leave us alone?
You’ve just had a horrible break up and you want more than anything not to see or hear from your ex. It’s such irony that the person who once brought you such pleasure and enjoyment is now the source of excruciating pain and agony.
What do you do when your ex just won’t leave you alone?
So you’re down and out all you want to do is crawl under a rock and literally die. The person you loved more than anything in the entire universe has abandoned you or has done something to wound you deeply. They know what they have done yet they still want to know “How are you doing?” It’s simply ridiculous don’t you think... But what’s even more ridiculous is that you cannot end the call, you cannot resist the temptation of a simple conversation with this person. You’re hurt. You’re confused what are you going to do? You want them out of your life yet you can’t let go? What do you do when you’re in this situation?
You ever notice when you lose contact with the person you’re fine? Or that you started dating someone new and just when you’re trying to move on….DING DING DING… who calls. Your ex. They found out that you’re with someone new and they are no longer the centre of your universe. This kills them, especially women. Now don’t get me wrong I’m a woman but I’m speaking clearly from observation here. Most women hate it when their ex moves on…they have it encrypted in their minds that they would forever be the one and only…why is that because you made them feel that way. You made this person feel that they were the most special creature to walk the planet. Why should she not be upset? Most women still want to know that they could get what they want from their previous lover even though they themselves may have moved on. This is pure selfishness on exes’ part.
Now the male; he finds out you got a new guy he calls why? How could you get over him he’s the best guy, the ultimate alpha male! I’m not saying he does not have some feelings somewhere in there is just that this time it’s coming from a different place. A male’s ego is the most precious thing he possesses. You hurt his ego, you injure his core. Think about it this way you were his toy and now someone else is playing with it.
So now you know what’s driving you ex…most of us would love to believe it’s his/her love but 90% this is not so.
Example: Sally left John after 8 years together for Tim. Tim and Sally are together for 3 years. Sally just heard John is engaged however she incessantly calls him. Isn’t Sally supposed to be happy with Tim? Why is she calling John?
When you hurt someone and leave them why do you insist on turning the knife that is in their back? If you once loved this person why torment them if you know they would be better off not speaking to you, for those exes who still call. What is your point? Does it make you feel better hurting someone who once gave you their all?
So what are you going to do. The next time you ex calls you don’t be surprised you know the motive. Do not give in. Don’t get upset and absolutely do not give in to his/ her whims and desire. Just remember you don’t have to sit there and listen to his/her rhetoric and it definitely isn’t benefiting to you either. So find the strength and tell him/her to leave you alone. For once think about yourself. You do know how to hang up a phone don’t you?
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