How long can you keep loving someone?
You ever find yourself in a situation where you are giving more than your bf/gf... I mean you complain about it all the time to your friends you know they aren't good for you but you know you love them and want to be with them...Should we settle..when we know we deserve more?
I used to ask this question..but then after time I got what I deserved..you ever sit and think I am still not getting what I want..I ask you why are you in the relationship?
How long can you keep loving someone and caring about him if you are not getting the same back from him/her?
Relationships should benefit both people involved. If you seem to be doing most of the giving while the other person does most of the taking, what exactly are you gaining from being in that relationship? Love is meant to be shared, not taken.
If you don't gel reciprocal love, continuing to give more and more will likely leave you feeling resentful if it hasn't already.
No matter how much you give, it may never be enough. A selfish partner does not see, or may not care, that you need something from him as well. He is too wrapped up in his own sick sad little world, and if you can't readily fulfill them for him, he is likely to look, or continue looking, outside the relationship for gratification.
Now One can never know how your bf/gf is totally..maybe you are seeing something that other people don't see...a truly inner goodness...I mean only you may know right? But a relationship is a two way thing and if the other person hasn't made a effort for a long period of time..how can they now right??
The thing is most people in relationships that they are giving 100% and the other is giving like 30% most likely must have spoiled the person in the beginning of the relationship at some point.. Sometimes instead of putting all the blame on the other person we also need to see what we ourselves have done wrong.We need to take accountability and try to correct..Now what if it is too late?
The question of compatibility may arise..maybe if your relationship is like this maybe you all really are not compatible...these are just common things that occur in dysfunctional relationships.Remember you cannot force someone to like you and especially love you..as I said before love is growing up...you need to find someone to grow with...
In conclusion i think everyone deserves to be happy...if you are giving more than you should you might drive yourself into a depression and cause yourself and others great grief.. My advice is you can always find a relationship where you will have reciprocated love.
Give me you dose of reality below