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Hello welcome to my relationship help site. I started posting notes on facebook but that wasn't enough. I guess you can say I have time on my hands. Anywho I will be posting more and more notes that may be helpful to all of you readers.I hope to target issues people don't really discuss and I hope I get feedback. Stay tuned for more reality doses!
How long do you wait to go out with someone after you’ve been through a breakup?
I am sure most have you have been there. You know the awkward stage of trying to go out with someone after you’ve ended a previous relationship. I personally have not been through this but I know this is a confusing stage in a person’s life to go through.
You’ve broken up with your bf/gf, 5 months may have passed maybe a year had passed maybe longer or shorter, but you’ve met a person who “rubs you the right way”
What do you do? Do you move forward or do you hesitate? Hopefully you have read my article about emotional baggage and know that the first thing you have to do is deal with that but for those of you who decide that you could put emotional baggage aside, you rush into the “Rebound” relationship.
A rebound relationship is one where you (or your partner if they're the one rebounding) are still affected by a previous significant relationship. That impacts on either the quality of the current relationship or your perception of it . This is a relationship that people rush into when they either don’t want to be alone or as a substitution crutch for the last relationship. If you know you are “on the rebound” then you know that now isn’t the time to be in another relationship. One main reason for this is more emotional damage either to you and most likely the other person. Another thing is that people usually find themselves with people they would never really go out with normally. Hence, rebound relationships result in matching of unsuitable partners.
If you find yourself more willing to commit and more eager to reciprocate emotions because you are scared to be alone, NOW IS NOT THE TIME TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP!
How will you know that you are ready to be with someone new? If these things are still happening when you with the person then you are NOT READY:
· You think of your ex partner daily even when you are with the “new” person.
· You still experience deep feelings of pain, regret or angst when you think of your ex or anything about your previous relationship
· You repeatedly think over one or a few particular issues within that relationship
· You are still trying to figure out what went wrong with your past relationship
· You compare the “new” person to you ex constantly.
So how long do you really wait?? Well take things slow. As I said in my emotional baggage article fix yourself. Deal with whatever issues you have within yourself and heal the damage. Do not go searching for someone you think could fix it for you. If you can’t fix it no one else can. Love yourself then you can open up yourself to new possibilities.
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